Why we Flirt

Often times we found ourselves doing or saying things we do not realize we are doing. This could be due to our subconscious(often used excuse) or just "the way" i am( another popular response). I state this because sometimes there is an actual reasoning to our behaviors, knowingly or unknowingly to the way we react to certain people and not to others. Why we flirt with someone people regardless of if we are married or single and not at all with others. Why we even flirt in the first place when married?
This stems more from human nature then personal nature. Innately leading to the conclusion this is built into our natural behavioral instincts. Not subconscious but rather an essence of what a human is per say. The article : Why We Flirt gives an over view of marriage behavioral flirting versus single flirting with the subtle actions we do to present a view of approach ability:

It's gestures, stance, eye movement. Notice how you lean forward to the person you're talking to and tip up your heels? Notice the quick little eyebrow raise you make, the sidelong glance coupled with the weak smile you give, the slightly sustained gaze you offer? If you're a woman, do you feel your head tilting to the side a bit, exposing either your soft, sensuous neck or, looking at it another way, your jugular? If you're a guy, are you keeping your body in an open, come-on-attack-me position, arms positioned to draw the eye to your impressive lower abdomen?

The article proceeds to depect how we are programmed to firlt, and it is not a question of why but rather when. We are built to spread out seeds to as many women as possible and marriage is against the human primal instinct.

One of the reasons we flirt in this way is that we can't help it. We're programmed to do it, whether by biology or culture.

Keep in mind all this flirting up until this point is behavioral and not verbal, all hints that are done without thinking about what signals you maybe sending. The moment that you cross into verbal flirting, we all know your intent is somthing much more.
The verbal flirtation is obviously done with all knowledge of what is being stated and expected reaction. This area of flirting is a result of wanting to play with them, mentally to get a rush.
The focus is to see how much the limits can be pushed, to see how long before a yes or a no is offered. To see how long the maybe can be held with no clarity in site for both people involved. This is flirting in its true form, in essence what we occurs when a person is not sure of the situation. Not sure of what to do next, flirting always becomes an option to those who know how to "play" it well. An escape route of sorts, a path to social acceptability in an awkward situation.

Thus the irony of writing this article on a day when everyone is with their significant other due to the hallmark holiday is to say Flirt away it will only " test one's mate-value and the possibility of alternatives--actually trying to see if someone might be available as an alternative,"